Have you ever wondered how to stop being soft? It’s a question that we all have posed to ourselves at one point or another, whether there was a specific moment, or it just naturally happened.

In either case, there are definitely ways that we can work on our “softness” and change the way we deal with situations in our lives.

I used to be a big softie, and it made me miserable. As much as I loved being kind and giving people what they needed, my brother would always tell me that this attitude wasn’t going to help me advance in my career and he was right.

Eventually, I realized that there’s a difference between being nice and being weak and that means learning how to stop being soft (and whatnot).

What being soft means

Softness is a state of being. It’s not a trait you can train yourself to have, nor can you change it with the click of a button. What you can do, however, is cultivate the qualities that make up a soft person: humility, compassion, and forgiveness.

The ability to be soft is more than just an act; it’s a way of life. A soft person learns to relax around other people and accept them for who they are because he or she knows that everyone has their issues to deal with and baggage to carry around.

Softness isn’t about being passive; it’s about being understanding in the face of adversity and forgiveness in the face of ignorance.

Why should we stop being soft to everyone

What do you do when you feel like you’re being so soft? It’s a question that I’ve asked myself many times, and I know it’s something that many of us struggle with. The truth is, we all have soft sides to our personalities. You might be sweet and gentle one minute but then turn into an aggressive jerk.

If this sounds familiar to you, don’t worry: We’re all capable of being hard-edged sometimes (although so often as me). But at the same time, we all want to be nice people who lead by example rather than by force or coercion. So how can you become less of a pushover without falling back on your old ways of being aggressive? Well, sure enough: it takes more than just a few good habits.

You’ve heard it before, but it’s worth repeating: You’re too soft. I’m not saying you should be a jerk or something like that; I’m just saying that you need to get tougher if you want to be successful in life.

After all, the world is full of tough people who have built successful careers from their toughness.

So, what does “tougher” mean? It means having a strong sense of self-knowledge and knowing how to communicate clearly with other people. It also means building your confidence up so that you know what kind of business opportunities are right for you and then taking action on those opportunities instead of letting someone else make the decision for you.

How to stop being soft to everyone

To be a person who is not soft, you must have a strong character and determination. You need to learn to control your emotions and not let them take over your life. One of the most important ones is practicing mindfulness meditation.

Stop being nice if it breaks you.


1. Stop saying sorry every time you open your mouth.

You should stop saying sorry every time you open your mouth.

I know we’re all taught from a young age to be polite and not offend people, but sometimes that can get in the way of speaking up for yourself. If someone says something hurtful or mean about you or your friends, don’t just take it say something back.

If someone does something bad (like stealing from another person) then let them know how hurtful their actions have been to everyone involved. Don’t be afraid of standing up for yourself; no one will respect someone who apologizes constantly without keeping his/her self-respect. 

2. Be polite and civil in your interactions, but don’t get pushy people to overstep your boundaries.

It’s important to remember that not everyone is your friend. If someone is rude or aggressive, it’s perfectly reasonable to react in a calm and respectful way but don’t let them get away with it. Don’t let people walk all over you, bully you, make fun of you, or treat you like an object (even if they think they’re being “nice”).

It’s understandable if this makes some people uncomfortable at first; after all, we’re used to being treated as objects ourselves by society but as soon as we learn how much damage can be done by being pushed around by other people (even when no harm comes from their actions), everything changes.

If someone does something wrong around us, and we must have the power to stop them from doing again, without hurting their feelings too badly.

3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Don’t be afraid to ask for help or come up with creative solutions–people will respect you for it
Don’t be afraid to ask for help or come up with creative solutions–people will respect you for it

Asking for help or coming up with creative solutions is not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of strength, resourcefulness and perseverance.

If you are unsure what to do, ask someone who knows what they are doing. They will be happy to help. If you have an issue with someone else’s behavior (for example, someone keeps bothering me), think of some creative solutions instead of giving up on them altogether just because they’re causing problems for you at the moment.

It’s okay if your solution doesn’t work out perfectly from the beginning sometimes things need time before they get fixed completely.

4. Don’t be afraid to:

Don’t be afraid to
Don’t be afraid to
  • Don’t be afraid to say no when you’re asked for a favor that you know will cause you stress or inconvenience (though if it’s a friend, just remember that friends do favors for each other sometimes).
  • Ask for help. You may not be able to do it all on your own and asking is always better than doing nothing at all.
  • Admit when you don’t know something, even if it means making an embarrassing mistake. People love to help others learn from their mistakes, so don’t be afraid of sharing what happened. They’ll probably appreciate the honesty and take it as an opportunity to teach others as well.
  • Ask clarifications: When someone brings up something related but not directly related topic in conversation (like “what did I say?”), ask them if they said what I think they did instead of assuming things based solely on how certain phrases sound together – this way we avoid confusing ourselves with bad assumptions based solely on our knowledge base

If you have trouble saying no, then this is probably a good place to start. If someone asks for a favor, and it’s not something that you feel comfortable doing, make an explanation and say no.

Don’t feel guilty about saying no because you can’t do everything for everyone, after all, so it’s important to be able to recognize when your time is more valuable than another person’s.

5. Understand that Softness is not weakness

Softness is not weakness, but neither are kindness and generosity
Softness is not weakness, but neither are kindness and generosity

Softness can be a good thing, but softness doesn’t necessarily have to lead to weakness. Kindness and generosity are not weaknesses either they’re just different kinds of softness.

Being soft is not the same as being weak or pushy; rather, it’s being easygoing and forgiving (and sometimes even nice). You might find yourself acting this way when someone else acts rudely or hurtful towards you: “I’m so sorry they did that!” instead of “You should stop being so selfish”

When someone insults your character by calling you “soft,” it means they think that being kind isn’t enough you need to show them what kind of person you really are by getting angry at their insults instead of just ignoring them (which would be rude).

6. You can be polite without being a pushover. 

Just because someone is rude to you does not excuse you to be rude back. It’s important to remember that we all have different opinions and beliefs, even if they differ from yours.

If another person has different values than yours, this doesn’t make them any less right or wrong, but it does mean that they may not understand how important things are for us as individuals who care about ourselves and our loved ones.

We might feel like we owe people something just because everyone else does it too, but the reality is that there are plenty of other ways besides doing favors for others that can help make life easier for everyone involved.

7. Accept that you’re not a superhero.

It’s time to accept that you’re not a superhero. You can’t control everything, and you can’t change other people. So why try? Instead of trying to be perfect, be kinder, gentler, and more generous with yourself and everyone else around you.

8. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone.

To break the habit of being soft, you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone.

The first step is being willing to do things that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar. The next time you’re at work or hanging out with friends, try saying something unexpected or trying an activity that scares the hell out of you like asking someone else what they think about something they said earlier (or even better, ask them if they’ve ever thought about this before), or making an offer.

You don’t know how other people will react, so it’s better not to take yourself too seriously when doing these things. It might take some practice, but soon enough, these acts will become new nature for everyone involved.

9. Practice mindfulness or meditation

Meditation is a process where you focus on one thing or idea for a long time. The idea is that by doing this, your mind will become more focused and clear, and you will be able to make better decisions based on what you know about yourself now.

There are many different types of meditation, so it’s up to you which one works best for you as an individual. Some people like using guided meditation tapes. While others prefer just sitting and doing nothing. But thinking about their breathing or focusing on their hands or eyesight.

Negative effect of being soft

Soft people are often misunderstood for being weak and easily hurt. They are not really weak or easily hurt, but they tend to be more sensitive than most people. This sensitivity can make them seem fragile. If you act too soft, you may find yourself struggling with negative feelings. 

Being soft is a negative trait. As it can be seen as a weakness and vulnerability that needs to be protected from the outside world. 

Being too soft can also cause problems in romantic relationships because it makes it hard for you to express your views or voice your opinions on certain issues. This will lead to arguments between you and your partner, which could eventually end up in divorce.

The negative effects of being soft are as follows:

1.  You are not as strong or powerful as you could be.

2.  You are not able to do what you want to do in life because of your softness.

3.  You might not be accepted by others because of your softness and weakness.

4.  If you were not soft, then you would have been able to develop yourself further and become a stronger person than the one that you are now.

5. You may struggle with negative emotions like anger, hostility, or sadness more than others. 

6. Being soft can lead to people taking advantage of you. You may get hurt by people who don’t know how to respect your feelings and take care of you.

7. it may make it difficult for you to stand up for yourself or defend your rights.


In conclusion, the key to being a better person is to be more confident in yourself and your abilities. That doesn’t mean that you should be arrogant–just don’t let people push you around or take advantage of your kindness.

The most important thing is having a strong moral compass that will guide you towards better decisions in life through all situations, no matter how difficult they may seem at first glance.


Let’s Boost your self-growth with Believe in Mind

Interested in self- reflection tips, learning hacks and know thyself with ways to calm down your mind; We offer you the best content which you have been looking for.

Email Subscriber Forum

Your privacy is important to us

Subscribe to Our Newsletter
Email Subscriber Forum