Why is Self-Improvement So Hard: Conquering Your Limitations

Sanju Pradeepa

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Why self improvement is so hard

Self-improvement is sometimes hard. It takes dedication, self-discipline, and the will to overcome obstacles that are sometimes incredibly difficult to face up to. But if you want it, you can do it. You just need to find your way through the challenge and work hard on yourself every day for years until you get there.

It takes true self-discipline to improve yourself. You have to be dedicated, consistent, and patient. You have to be persistent but also aware of your weaknesses and shortcomings so that you can avoid them in the future. Achieving anything requires hard work and perseverance, but it also helps if you’re willing to do whatever it takes.

We all tend to fall back on bad habits. It’s not easy, but we need to be aware of our bad habits and try to change them. The key is that we need to be willing to make sacrifices if we are to succeed in changing our behaviors.

You need to figure out what matters to you first, then dedicate yourself to it.

You should ask yourself, “What do I want out of life?” If you don’t know, it’s going to be hard for anyone else in your life, including yourself, to help guide you along. This includes other people who have had success in their lives and could offer advice or suggestions on how they did it (see the above paragraph).

Once you have a clear idea of what matters most in your life and how best to achieve those goals, then we can get started.

In this article, I am going to talk about Why is self-improvement so hard. If you are ready let’s begin.

Reasons Why is Self-Improvement So Hard

Reasons Why is Self-Improvement So Hard
Reasons Why is Self-Improvement So Hard

You lack discipline and self-control. You have a tendency to take the easy way out rather than going through the hard work.

You don’t have the mental fortitude to keep going when things get tough. You’re a “positive thinker” who thinks every problem has a solution, so you’re always looking for ways to make things better.

You’re not very good at setting goals or making plans for your future. You don’t know how to focus your attention on one thing at a time; instead, you’ll try to do everything at once and end up doing nothing well.

You don’t know how to follow through on your commitments; you make promises but never follow through on them. If someone asks you to do something, chances are they’ll be disappointed when they find out that you’ve broken your word and forgotten about it entirely by the time, they need that favor returned.

1. You Don’t Set Specific, Time-bound Goals

One of the biggest problems with self-improvement is that it can be a lot of work. Most people who are trying to improve themselves don’t set specific, time-bound goals (SMART). They just want to “get better” in general.

Develop an action plan for achieving goals
Develop an action plan for achieving goals

The problem with this approach is that it gives you no direction or purpose in your life. You won’t know what you’re doing, so you’ll wander around aimlessly until something happens, and then you’ll wonder how everything suddenly fell into place.

If you want to get anywhere in life, you need to focus on specific goals and create a plan for reaching them. This way, when progress occurs (which will often happen), it will feel like a huge breakthrough rather than an accident or coincidence.

2. Your Desire to Change is Not Strong Enough

The second reason you’re not enjoying the benefits of self-improvement is that your desire to change is not strong enough.

You want to improve, but you don’t want to change. You may even be afraid of change for fear that it will lead to an undesirable outcome.

If this sounds like you, then you have a great opportunity in front of you: you can choose to make self-improvement more enjoyable by strengthening your will and intentionality.

This requires developing a strong desire for success and happiness. It means committing yourself fully to the process of improving yourself and becoming the best possible version of yourself.

3. You Are Too Hard On Yourself

You need to recognize that you are a human being. We all have flaws, and we all make mistakes. You are not perfect, nor should you expect to be. The only person who can determine your worth is yourself. If you think you’re not good enough or don’t deserve something, then it’s time for you to stop comparing yourself with others and start believing in yourself.

If you want to improve your life, though, there’s only one thing that will make it easier: taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture.

Here’s what that looks like:

You have a long way to go before you can be happy with yourself. You’ll probably never be fully satisfied with your life until you’re dead. So don’t waste time feeling guilty about not being happy yet.

Instead, focus on improving yourself as much as possible today and every day for the rest of your life. That’s what matters most.

4. Your Self-esteem Is Low

Self-esteem is one of the most important things you can have in your life. It is the foundation of all happiness and success, and it can be built up or destroyed by how you treat yourself. When you feel good about yourself, you are more likely to be happy and motivated to do great things. When you don’t feel good about yourself, it can affect everything from your work ethic to your relationships with others.

It’s easy to get stuck in a cycle where you feel like a failure despite all your hard work. You may have put in hundreds of hours on a project, but when it comes time for a review at work or a project meeting at school, everyone else seems to get better results than you did. You start comparing yourself with others who seem so much more successful than you, and this feeling of inferiority gets worse every time.

The good news is that with some awareness and effort on your part, these feelings can be changed. 

5. You Lack Discipline and Self-control

Self-improvement takes true self-discipline.

It’s very hard to change the way you think, feel, and act. It requires discipline and self-control.

If you want to change your life for the better, you need to build up your self-discipline by doing things that are hard for you. The more difficult tasks you complete each day, the more disciplined and self-controlled you become.

You can start by making a list of all the bad habits that you want to break. Then go through each one and decide how many times you want to do it in a single day. For example, if exercise is on your list of bad habits, try going for a walk instead of watching TV all evening long. If reading books is on your list of bad habits, then read one chapter instead of watching TV until bedtime each evening.

The more times you complete difficult tasks each day, the better person you become.

6. You Don’t Have A Support System

We are by nature a very social species, and few things are more important for us than having people around us who understand us. Our brains almost always look to others for validation and guidance. When we don’t have that, it’s easy to get lost in the woods.

And if you don’t have anyone around who can help you navigate your way through this maze, it’s going to be much harder for you to get through it. You need someone who understands where you’re coming from, what makes you tick, and what makes your heart beat faster than anything else in life.

It’s a lot easier for someone else to walk with you on this journey than it is for them to take over as your guide. They’ll keep track of all the stops along the way and make sure everyone gets there safe and sound at the end of the day. You can trust them because they know how hard this stuff really is and they’ve been there before, so they can help you make sense of it all.

7.  You’re Always Chasing New Goals and Never Reaching a Final Summit.

There’s a very good reason why self-improvement is hard. As you pursue your goals, you’re constantly confronted with new challenges and obstacles, which means that you have to make adjustments and improvements to your current strategy.

You know what the problem is? You don’t understand the difference between a long-term goal and a short-term goal. You know what that means? Because you don’t understand the difference, you never really commit to anything for more than a few hours or days at a time. That’s why it’s so hard to stay on track with your goals.

The reason you get off track is that when we’re trying to reach one specific goal, our minds are constantly thinking about other things. Maybe there’s something else we should be doing instead of working on our goal, or maybe there’s something else we can do that will help us reach our goal even faster (or if there’s nothing else, we can do, then it doesn’t matter anyway).

It’s like when you have a meal plan for the day; if someone asks you, “What time did you start eating?” your mind immediately jumps back to all the other meals you have planned for the week. What time did they start eating? How much did they eat? Did they drink any water?

We’ve been conditioned to believe that being average is the goal of life, but this isn’t true at all. There are many paths on which to achieve greatness, but few people give them a shot.

If you really want to improve your life, you need to know where your path will lead not just the destination, but also the journey itself. This article will help you get there by giving you the tools necessary to transform yourself from someone who knows how things work into someone who can do things differently.

8. You’re Focusing on The Wrong Things

You’ve got a lot of things to do, and your time is limited. You have to prioritize, so you start focusing on the most important tasks first, which means that other things get pushed aside. This is usually the case because we think that if we don’t get something done right away, it might never get done at all.

But what if you didn’t have any deadlines? What if you could spend as much time as you wanted on whatever task presented itself? How would you feel then? Would you still be motivated to do anything at all?

If there’s no pressing need for a certain task or project to get done immediately, then it can wait until later. There’s no need for urgency, so why should I waste my time worrying about getting it done quickly? If I want more time spent on something else in the future, I’ll just work harder and make sure it gets done sooner rather than later anyway.

9. You’re Not Going About Improving Yourself the Right Way

It’s easy to think that you can get better at something by reading a book or watching a video, but the truth is that you have to put in the work. The problem is that most people don’t know how to do this and instead just sit back and hope for the best.

If you want to improve your life, you need to go about it in a specific way. The first step is figuring out what your goals are, because once you know what you’re trying to accomplish, then you can start working towards them.

The next step is making sure that you’re taking action every day towards those goals. This means that while reading a book or watching videos may be helpful, they won’t actually make much difference if they aren’t accompanied by action on your part.

Finally, once you’ve taken all those steps and started moving towards your goals, then you’ll actually see results in no time

10. Mastering Self-Improvement Require Some Effort

If you have the right mindset and plan, it’s not hard to avoid temptation. But it can be difficult if your mind is preoccupied with other things or if a situation looks too good to pass up just because it’s tempting. You need to be aware of what’s around you so that you know when it’s time for self-care (and when it’s not).

You also need mental preparation: being able to make decisions based on your values instead of feeling pressured by others’ expectations; having an idea of how long something will take before making a decision; this way, whatever happens next won’t throw off everything else in your life.

11. You Want Instant Gratification

Bettering ourselves means living without excuses.

The key here is that you have to be able to say no. You have to be able to tell yourself, “I can’t do this” or “I don’t want this.” You have to be willing and ready for what’s coming ahead of you in your life.

It’s hard because it means saying no, not just once, but every single day, to everything from having a drink with friends after work (because someone might judge us), going out dancing (because we’re too tired), or even just taking care of ourselves by eating well throughout the day (so we can make sure we feel great).

Hanging out for a drink or just for the joy of it isn’t the issue; the key is whether you are okay with someone’s request just because you lack the confidence to say no. 

12. You’re Prone to Comparison

We tend to compare ourselves to others and feel inadequate by comparison.

We all want to be the best, and we’ll do anything to achieve that goal. However, it’s not always positive or healthy for us to compare ourselves with other people. For example: “I’m better than her” or “He’s prettier than I.” Studies show that this type of thinking can cause anxiety in some cases (and even depression).

So how do you overcome this natural tendency? It’s really simple: just accept who you are! You don’t need anyone else’s approval; just focus on being happy with who you are without comparing yourself with others at all times even if they’re attractive or talented. Because everyone has unique qualities which make them special in their way.

13. You Don’t Prepare for Challenges

Self-improvement isn’t easy, but you can do it if you want to and if you’re committed to yourself.

Self-improvement is hard when It’s not easy to let go of negative thoughts and accept that you’re not perfect, but it’s worth it if you want to improve yourself.

You need to set goals for yourself and work towards them every day for them to become a reality. You also have to have a positive attitude about life; otherwise, how can anyone expect themselves or others around them? And lastly, being dedicated makes all the difference: persistence leads us forward when things get tough; patience helps us see our way through those times when there seems no end in sight (though sometimes we need both).

The most important thing here is whatever path your self-improvement takes, whether through meditation or exercise more often than usual. Just remember: At the end of the day there will always be other people trying as hard as possible as everyone else does too.

14. You Have Bad Habits That Keep You From Improving Yourself

Maybe you have bad habits that prevent you from improving, such as overeating or not exercising enough. If these habits aren’t addressed and changed, then it will be hard for you to improve in other areas of your life.

Some of us can’t get it out of our heads.

Some of us tend to fall back on bad habits. We’re so used to doing things the way we’ve always done them that it’s hard for us to make changes. It may seem like an obvious point, but it’s true: if you’re trying to learn a new language and keep thinking about all the times you’ve tried before and failed (or even just thought about them), then self-improvement is going to be much harder than it needs to be.

Self-improvement is hard because we have such high expectations for ourselves, and those expectations often aren’t realistic. We expect ourselves not only to act differently but also to think differently than how we normally do things, which leads many people to become frustrated when they don’t see progress as quickly as expected or even at all.


So, what’s the takeaway? First, you should understand that self-improvement is a constant process and requires dedication. Second, it can be hard because we have so many distractions in our lives from friends to social media posts to TV shows that make us feel like we aren’t making progress toward our goals.

Thirdly (and most importantly), we need support from others who believe in us and want us to succeed. Having encouragement from other people will help keep you on track with your goal and make it easier when things get difficult along the way.


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Sanju Pradeepa

Hey there! I'm Sanju Pradeepa and a local consultant who loves to help people make their lives better.I am studying Psychology Education, English Language and currently working as the content creator of So, as a person who believes in the power of words it's my pleasure to share them with you.It's never too late to pursue your passion. I hope that you're ready to take the first step in making that happen.Welcome to our site!

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