We all experience moments when we don’t feel like ourselves. Maybe you’re stressed out at work and can’t seem to get your mind off the problem on hand, or maybe you’re so anxious that it takes over everything else in life for a while. Whatever the reason for your lack of confidence, there are ways to get through it and take back control of your life.

How do you know when you’ve lost all confidence? What do you do when you have zero confidence? when you feel like the world is crumbling around you, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.

You might feel like this because of a specific event or series of events. You might be overwhelmed by stress at work or family problems at home as mentioned earlier. Or maybe your confidence has been eroded by a string of bad decisions and poor choices.

Whatever the cause, these are times when it can seem impossible to get yourself back on track. But there is hope. Once you recognize that your confidence is low, it’s time to take action.

What to do when you’ve lost all confidence?

Confidence is not a quality you're born with; it's something you build with time and experience
Confidence is not a quality you’re born with; it’s something you build with time and experience

You may have heard that confidence is something you’re born with, but it’s a skill that can be learned. This means you can build your confidence over time, even if you start out feeling like an awkward teenager who has nothing to offer. While there are many ways to improve your confidence and self-esteem, one of the best ways is by starting small and acting more like a leader than a follower.

When you’ve lost all confidence, the first thing to do is to take a step back and ask yourself what the real problem is. Is your lack of confidence due to something that you can’t control? Or are you being too hard on yourself?

Why we need confidence. – Why is Self-Confidence Important to Success: (13 Reasons)

What Do You Do When You Have Zero Confidence?

Once you have an answer, it’s time to take action. Here are some steps that you can take:

The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph

1. Try to pinpoint what’s making you feel bad about yourself.

Once you’ve identified the problem, it’s time to give yourself some time and space. This means doing things like:

Take a deep breath and step away from the situation.

Take a deep breath and step away from the situation
Take a deep breath and step away from the situation

When you feel anxious or panicky, take a deep breath and step away from the situation. Try to calm down before you say anything else. If it’s appropriate, take a break and come back later. When you have time, it’s better to think about what you want to say in more detail.

2. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings.

Talk to someone you trust about your feelings
Talk to someone you trust about your feelings

Talking to someone you trust, and respect is a great way to get your confidence back. You can talk about the things that are worrying you, or just have a conversation about what’s on your mind. It may be useful to think of this as an opportunity for growth, rather than an attack on your self-confidence.

3. Change your attitude about yourself

Change your attitude about yourself
Change your attitude about yourself

You might feel like quitting because of how hard things seem right now; instead of worrying about whether or not things will get better soon, focus on how much happier and more confident you’ll be once they do.

Why attitudes matter a lot ? – Why is Attitude Important: 14 Ways to Develop and Maintain

4. Stop comparing yourself to others.

This is a recipe for unhappiness, and it’s not productive at all. You’re better off taking your own path in life than trying to mirror the lives of other people who are doing things you can’t even dream about doing yourself. It’s also a waste of time because, no matter how hard you try to achieve something, it seems impossible.

If one person doesn’t have confidence in themselves, then there will always be someone else who does, and they’ll probably have more experience than you do. It is better to compare your productivity with yourself, the level where you have been last month or year.

Remember, comparing yourself with others isn’t helpful because it only makes things worse by making them seem more difficult than they are (if anything). Plus, if we compare ourselves with other people too much then eventually our standards will drop lower and lower.

To learn more about 7 Reasons to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

5. Try to believe in yourself

Try to believe in yourself
Try to believe in yourself

Self-confidence is a superpower. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.
So,stop doubting yourself. Work hard, and make it happen.


Remember that you are a unique, special and important person. No one is perfect, but you can be good enough to be happy. You are not only beautiful but also smart and funny.

If you want to be successful in life, try to believe in yourself first. Believe that you can do anything if you want to do it badly enough. Believe that you can make a difference in this world. Believe that you can help others and make the world a better place.

6. Challenge the negative self-talk in your head.

Challenge the negative self-talk in your head
Challenge the negative self-talk in your head

It’s a simple fact: if you have zero confidence, your self-talk is negative. You may think, “What do I do when the naysayers in my head give me bad advice?”

The answer? Challenge the negative thoughts in your head. When you’re feeling down and out about something, whether it’s a question on an exam or a hopeless social situation, it can be hard to keep pushing through. But don’t give up. We’ve all been there, and we know how powerful our minds can be when it comes to convincing us of anything we want them to believe about us.

So how do we stop this from happening? We can do it by challenging those negative voices in our heads with something positive. Something that makes us feel good about ourselves and moves us forward toward achieving whatever goal we have set for ourselves (and sometimes even surpassing it).

7. Set small goals.

Set small goals
Set small goals

It’s easy to get discouraged when things don’t go as planned, but it’s important not to let this happen until you have a plan of attack. Choose at least three things that are within your control, and make sure that they’re realistic and measurable. Once you’ve done this, set a goal for each one.

For example, if you want to lose weight, then set a goal for the number of pounds lost each week (or month). If your goal isn’t met on time or at all, adjust it accordingly until it’s reached successfully.

8. Realize that no one is perfect, and every person has struggles.

We all have our unique strengths and weaknesses, which means we’re not trying to be anyone but ourselves. The great thing about being human is that we can learn from each other and grow as individuals through our experiences.

While it can be difficult to accept that no one is perfect, this is one of the most important lessons you can learn when it comes to having zero confidence: no one is going to make you feel good about yourself except for yourself.

Everyone has had their struggles and stories in life; therefore, don’t compare yourself to other people who are better off than you are because this causes them to feel inadequate because they believe their lives are better than yours (which isn’t true).

To read more: How to Manifest What You Want Quickly

9. Do something you’re naturally good at.

Do something you're naturally good at
Do something you’re naturally good at

Do something you’re naturally good at, so you can see that you do have strengths and successes. If you’re feeling like you can’t do anything right, try this:

Think of a time when you felt really good about yourself. Was it when someone complimented your work? When did they say how much they enjoyed something that was done by you? Or maybe it was just the simple fact that everything went according to plan and everyone else seemed happy with their jobs, too (except for maybe one person who didn’t get any respect).

What did this person do? How did he or she approach the situation so well and make everyone around them feel better about themselves? How did he/she take care of all the details without making anyone feel awkward or uncomfortable?

Now think about how much easier life would have been if we had learned these skills earlier in life. We can look back now at our younger selves and realize how much potential there was in us, and all we needed was an opportunity to let ourselves shine through.

10. Step Back and start over.

Step Back and start over
Step Back and start over

If you’re stuck in a rut, it’s time to go back to the skills you’ve been working on and implement another one in a new situation. You may be familiar with this concept from sports or music.If you’ve been practicing your violin for 10 years but haven’t played it since then, go back and play something new.

It’s the same thing here: if you have zero confidence in your abilities because of past experiences with other people (or even yourself), then go back. Write down all the things that make up your specific skill set, such as: “I can do X.”

Make sure these are specific enough that someone else could read them and know exactly what they mean by “X.” Then write down three ways of showing everyone else how good at X, out there is person Y (who has no idea how great he or she is).


Remember, no one is perfect, and nobody depends on you to be perfect. Just because someone else has more confidence doesn’t mean they’re better than you. You can learn from the mistakes of others by observing how they react in certain situations and learning from their experiences.


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